If your a bigger, curvier lady, and you just want to know if any men out there actually are interested in you, you are certainly not alone. There are men out there who genuinely do prefer bigger girls over skinnier ones. You just have to understand what guys will understand you better, if you go after the wrong guys, chances are you aren’t going to get optimal results either.
The most attractive quality a man looks for in a woman is sexiness and confidence. The two really go hand in hand. If you believe you are sexy, you have confidence. If you have confidence, men are more likely to find you sexy.
Most younger, more self absorbed guys will not like fatter women. They won’t find you all that attractive, and really, it makes sense. If they are conscious about their body, work out constantly, watch what they eat, etc., it means they care about their appearance, so they probably will care about their partners’ appearance too.
Also, when you are wanting to go for a guy, pay attention to whom he surrounds himself with. If he surrounds himself with cockier, rude, self absorbed people, even if he’s nice to you, that says something about his character. Of course, he could still be interested in you, just as a general statement, pay attention to his friends.
Also, if you are dating a man, it isn’t fair to expect him to have perfectly chiseled abs, unless you are working towards that yourself. Be fair to him. If he finds you attractive as you are, you really should find him attractive the way he is.
Of course, some men prefer bigger women, while some don’t. Even mature men will have their preferences. Some men simply do find curvier women more attractive. They say they like the feel of them in bed. While some other men just like the skinnier girls. It is honestly all personal preference as far as what they like in a woman. Some men are really open minded to all women. To impress these fellows, confidence is key. If you walk into a room like you own the place, whether you are bigger or skinnier, people will look at you. If you have a low self esteem, many men find that as a big turnoff. They want to tell you your beautiful without you having to contradict them every five seconds about how your not. That doesn’t mean you need to be cocky though.
Generally, more mature men will be the ones to go for. They have lived long enough to know that looks aren’t everything. Most bigger girls actually have the best personalities. If you have a good attitude and are a positive person, many men will appreciate that. They will like you more (even if they are more attracted skinny girls) than a skinnier girl who is vain, self absorbed, and cold. No one wants to be around someone who complains all day. Men like a woman who acts like she can handle anything and everything.
There is a difference, from being curvy and downright obese. If you are actually very obese, even if some men do find you attractive, if would probably be best for your health to get rid of some weight. You don’t have to become a size 0, that’s unrealistic, you would just like to be at a healthier weight. The fitter you are, the less likely to get certain diseases and conditions, a heart attack especially. If you are simply curvy or a few pounds overweight, don’t worry. You are fine.
If you are a fatter woman who is only attracted to younger, hotter, and fitter guys, you may be setting your sites a little too high. Younger men who are more hormone driven, may not see through your body. They may only see an overweight girl, without paying any attention to the person that’s underneath it all. While they may date you and be nice, they may cut offensive jokes at you about your body. And no one deserves to feel insecure in a relationship like that.
So basically, some more mature men do like bigger women. But lots of younger men prefer fitter and skinnier girls. Their opinions may change as they age, but most younger men would rather have a skinnier girl in bed. It’s a personal choice. Believe it or not, the main thing men look for in a long time partner is a nice face. So your body may not be the focal point of many mens’ attention. But if you want any man to be attracted to you, have confidence. Confidence is attractive to everyone. So, show that off, and you will have a partner soon enough.